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The Lost Art of Writing Letters

by Holly

mailbox

 

Here’s what I received in the mail yesterday: catalogs from Crate & Barrel and L.L.Bean and a coupon from Bed, Bath & Beyond. The day before that it was grocery store circulars, something from American Express, and a postcard from Lucky Brand jeans. In all, a whole lot of nothing. If the U.S. Postal Service is going to cut back on its delivery days, that’s fine by me.

(Insert wistful sigh . . . )

I love both sending and receiving letters in the mail. But with cell phone use, e-mail, text messages, IM, Facebook, and so on, I fear the days of sitting down to pen a letter are long gone. Even when we do “care enough to send the very best” usually that means just picking out something with a canned sentiment and just jotting our name to the inside. Does that make you sad? It makes me very sad. 

In my bedroom closet, I have boxes full of letters and cards that I’ve received over the years. Each one a snapshot of how our lives converged. Each one a bit of history. In my old-fashioned opinion, an online folder full of e-mails simply doesn’t make the grade. There’s just something about having the paper in hand, words inked, that gives the message a greater sense of value. It’s why I can’t send a card without adding my own touch. It’s why I have a drawer full of stationery.

While watching all of the news coverage on the late Senator Ted Kennedy, I was pleased to learn that he too was an avid letter writer. From notes of congratulations to the coaches of Boston’s sports teams to annual letters of condolence to Massachusetts’ families who lost loved ones in the 9/11 attacks–and much more–here was a man who understood that well-chosen words are a lasting gift.

It need not be a whole “Dear so and so” type of letter with paragraphs. Even just a personalized sentence or two inside a store-bought card is meaningful. Or a postcard. Heck, even a Post-It note can be special. Just as long as they’re your own words.

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© 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because less (fleeting, electronic correspondence) really is more. Though, on occasion, I’ve been known to send a few of these delightfully sarcastic e-cards(Image courtesy of Timothy Lloyd via Creative Commons.)

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Missed Manners

by Holly

Miss Manners book

This evening, I gave away a few bottles of perfume that I hadn’t worn in quite some time: two of which made me sneeze (Bvlgari and Hugo Boss) and the other (Lucky You), which just wasn’t me. Per usual, I had posted three ads in the “free” section on Craigslist–and per usual, I was hit with quite a few responses. The woman I gave them to was excited to share them with her two teenage daughters. Sure, the math worked out neatly on that one–but mostly, I chose to give the perfumes to this woman because she was friendly and polite in her e-mail. Two qualities that will always win me over.

Now, I know I work with words for a living, so perhaps I care/read into communications a little more than your average bear, but I truly wish more people would realize that manners always count. Even when you’re not face to face. Even when you’re bidding on a stranger’s free Craigslist stuff. Lessons learned on Sesame Street; reinforced in Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood.

As I stood in my driveway chatting with this kind mother of three, she asked if anyone else had responded to my ads for the perfumes. “Oh, lots of people,” I said.

“What, and none of them showed up?”

“No, you’re the only one I responded to. You got my attention by being so friendly and polite.”

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© 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because less really is more. (Photo credit by bjornmeansbear via Creative Commons–thank you!)

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