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Road Rage Is Mental Clutter

by Holly

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I’ve been thinking a lot about bicycling lately. Mostly because I recently helped out my brother who was competing in a 12-hour mountain bike race, but also because I’ve noticed myself experiencing road rage toward the cyclists with whom I share the road.

Me? Road rage? What’s that all about? I’m a nice person. I’m all for the environment and eco-friendly actions. Why so hostile? Truth be told, I’m afraid of hitting one of them with my car. Terrified. Their elbow hitting my sideview mirror; them taking a spill, me veering to avoid catastrophe. Or worse–a right-hand turn, bad timing, and a catapulting body. Broken bones and ambulances.

So, when I’m driving beside a cyclist and trying to pass them so that I can get where I need to be a minute faster, I curse them. Stupid bike people and your stupid shorts and stupid helmets. Get the *#$&  out of my way. Occasionally, I displace some of my vitriol on the state, wishing our narrow New England roads had bike lanes or that there were fewer cars on the road. But it’s usually the former.

As a corporate communicator, I’m always encouraging writers to put themselves in the recipient’s shoes. How does the cyclist feel sandwiched between an SUV and a curb? Is he worried about his safety? Cursing at the cars on the road? Using that information, is there a better way to approach the situation?

Instead of thinking angry thoughts, why not try something more kind and affirmative. Something like: “Hey there, biker person. Look at you doing good for the environment–and your health. Way to go! Hope your travels are happy and safe. Please don’t forget to use your hand signals, okay? Take care!”

I never curse all those roadkill squirrels for being so dumb as to run out into traffic. Instead I name them and offer up a little silent eulogy. So, how about a few kind words for that guy riding his bike down School Street with all the cars?

The thoughts that fill our heads are not unlike the contents of the hallway closet. Keep things orderly and all is well. But once things start to get out of control, everything else goes sour. A little mindfulness will take care of that.

What sets you reeling on a tirade of negative thoughts? What quick fix can you make to turn around your perspective on the situation?

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© 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Making the space–mentally and physically–to live happily ever after. (Image from National Lampoon’s European Vacation. Say it with me now: Rrrrrrusty.)


Travel Utensils: Not Just for Weirdos

by Holly

While in college, I briefly dated this guy who carried his own set of chopsticks. I can still remember diving into our take-out containers, my girlfriends and I all watching as he unceremoniously removed those glossy red sticks from his messenger bag. The most outspoken of the bunch asked him why, point blank, did he carry his own chopsticks. The tone of her inquiry rang out weirdo alert, weirdo alert. Admittedly, I agreed. (Forgive me; it was the mid-1990s and I was just a wee twentysomething.)

“Because I never know when I’ll need them,” he replied in earnest.

Fast-forward a dozen-plus years . . . to today. I’m sitting in the Upper Crust, taking a little time out of my busy day to keep the staycacation vibe going by treating myself to lunch outside of the office. (I had a buy one slice, get one free coupon, so this was a budget friendly splurge. Plus, a girl needs to eat.) I had forgotten how big and floppy their by-the-slice pizza could be. The type of pie where you’re wise to fork-and-knife it at least halfway up. Especially when you’re wearing a white jacket and a light-colored blouse.

Reluctantly, I picked up a plastic fork and knife along with my paper napkins. And because I was really thirsty–and forgot my water bottle back at the office–I poured myself some water in a plastic cup. Other than wishing I hadn’t forgotten my water bottle, my first thought was, I sure wish I had some travel utensils so I didn’t have to rely on the disposable stuff.

Pot? Kettle? Yes, indeed.

Truth be told, my handbag is heavy enough without adding a fork, knife, and spoon to the mix. But it just seems so wasteful to pitch the plastic. Perhaps if it were recyclable, I’d feel a little bit better. Fortunately, I’m not often faced with a need for plastic utensils. I have my own set of stainless at work (along with my mug, plate, and bowl). But for those rare occasions, I think this would be a pretty easy switch. It’s the type of thing I could even just stash in the glove compartment. I’m much more likely to use a fork than I am that tire pressure gauge.

A few days ago, Simple Savvy posted a cool tutorial on how to make your own utensil set. How neat, I thought–until I saw how much sewing was involved. But there’s nothing keeping me from rolling a fork, knife, and spoon in a cloth napkin, tying it up, and carrying it with me next time I find myself faced with a big, floppy slice of pie.

N.B. I brought the plastic utensils home for washing and reuse, and the cup for recycling; only used three paper napkins; and managed not to get a drop on my clothes. Go me.

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© 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because less really is more.


And Then There Was One

by Holly

I leased my car–a 2006 Honda Civic–just days before my Grandpa Bill passed away. The car I was driving previously–a ’97 Civic–was quickly begining to show its age and each time I’d turn my key in the ignition, I’d sigh in relief. Honestly, I didn’t know how much more the old dame had in her, yet she always surprised me with one more trip, one more day. 

Still, I felt guilty making plans to lease a new car when, technically, the old one was still running–and the body wasn’t in such bad shape either. Had I given up too easily? As my grandfather lay in a hospital bed struggling to breathe on this, his last Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thanksgiving Thursday–my grandmother by his side–neither one of them was ready to call it quits.

I remember driving to work that Tuesday morning before trading in my car, holding the steering wheel a bit more lovingly, offering gratitude for our safe travels into thin air. On Thanksgiving Day, with my fingertips resting on the back of my grandfather’s papery hand, I hoped that my touch expressed my appreciation for all the games of chase around the dining room table, Happy Meals, trips to Jennings Beach, soft-serve cones from Carvel, and spending money slipped into just because greeting cards.

My grandfather passed away early on Friday morning with my grandmother still by his side, exhausted from recounting the last 50+ years of their life together. In my garage sat a shiny new car, just 15 miles on the odometer. Out with the old, in with the new. I named the new car Bill, knowing he would have appreciated the pun.

So last week, when the lease on that ’06 Civic came to an end and I turned in Bill to the dealer, I couldn’t help but feel another twinge of sadness over letting go. This time, however, I wasn’t bringing home a shiny new toy. Instead, we are going to have a run at beign a one-car family, saving us money and reducing our carbon footbrint for sure. It hasn’t been very long, but Bill’s absence is starkly apparent. I’m sure my grandmother agrees.

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© 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because less really is more–except if you’re talking about grandpas.

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Observations on My Sense of Observation

by Holly

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I have always fancied myself to be a pretty observant person, taking mental note of all the random little things that often go unregistered. Like the two small cups of Dunkin’ Donuts coffee one of my old professors used to bring to every class. Or the ladybug design on the PLU sticker on my apple. Or the surprising number of people at the grocery store who buy those sugar wafer cookies. So, when I was climbing across the passenger seat of my car a few days ago, getting my trusty l’il Honda ready for its end-of-lease inspection, I couldn’t believe what I noticed: a sticky mark on my windshield from where a piece of tape once held the spec sheet on my car.

I’ve had this car for three and a half years now, and I’m just noticing this tape on my windshield? What else have I been living with, ignorant of its existence? True, my purse and shoes don’t often match–yet they’re not artfully mismatched in that Clinton- and Stacy-approved way. I’ve spied a poppyseed in my teeth hours after eating an everything bagel for breakfast. I sometimes wear a gold ring along with my stainless steel watch. The horror, I know. But at the end of the day, who cares really. Does it make me less intelligent, less presentable, less successful? No, no, and no. So what if there’s a line of sticky gunk on my passenger side windshield that has been there for the past 41 months.

But if you ever see me walking around with the 100% lambswool tag hanging from the sleeve of my coat or (gasp, shudder) the little white stitches on the back waistband of my pants, then you can judge me. Until then, I’m owning up to my smudges and imperfections.

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© 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Making the space–mentally and physically–to live happily ever after. (“Imperfectly Yours” photo credit Mel B. via Creative Commons–thank you!)

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