Yellow Light

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There were two colors in my 64-pack of Crayola crayons that I wouldn’t touch as a kid: raw umber and spring green. In my world of Poky Little Puppy coloring books and stained “glass” art projects, these two hues had no place in my world. Their tips would remain snub-nosed while the remaining 62 would get peeled and sharpened, peeled and sharpened, until they disappeared into the depths of the box.

As an adult, having lived through nearly 40 long New England winters, I’ve grown to love that pop of spring green that one April day just dots the tips of the trees. And then, just a few days later, when those little dots unfurl into something so vibrant, so graceful, and so celebratory—that day, that moment, is one of my absolute favorites of the entire year.

Driving home from work, there’s a stretch of conservation land where the oak trees are so mighty that they form a canopy over the street. Earlier this week, as I drove through this tunnel of oaks, the 6:15 p.m. late-April sunlight cast a hazy glow on each and every one of those unfurling buds. I heeded the glowing yellow light that had engulfed me and slowed down. Way down. Mother Nature was operating this traffic light, and the sight was too splendid to just blow straight on through.

In this world of get-it-done-and-make-it-snappy mindsets, it’s important to remember that good things take some time. Whether it’s waiting for winter to make its exit, a relationship to develop its sweet spot, hard work to pay off, or a dream to come true, a willingness to slow down and to put a little faith in the nature of things will often do the trick.

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©2013 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because that Mother Nature is one smart lady.


Sheltered

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kreiter_lockdownwaltham1_metI’ve spent the last week with my jaw agape, my nerves jangled, and my head shaking in disbelief. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. The news outlets unfolding details that were so unreal—gruesome, dark, and deranged details—that I didn’t want to listen. I didn’t want to take it all in. And yet, I had to. This was my hometown that was hurting. And some 2,000 miles away, someone else’s hometown had been badly hurt, too. Act of terror or an accident, all of it so hard to accept.

Friday afternoon, after a solid eight hours of “sheltering in place” just three miles away from the manhunt in Watertown, my mind unraveled from its tight, trusting knot. “Land of the free” had always been something that I’ve taken for granted. Gratefully, not selfishly so. I know I’m fortunate to say it, but freedom is all I’ve ever known. I’ve never felt before that my life could be in danger. I thought of the women in India who had endured horrifying, torturous rapes. Women whose religion dictated their style of dress. Whose gender dictated their equal rights. I thought of the husbands and wives who boarded planes back on September 11, 2001, just going about business as usual. Who sat at their desks, checking e-mail and sipping coffee in the Twin Towers as they got their workdays started. Who cheered on friends, loved ones, and strangers alike, all along the marathon route. I thought of the injustices, I thought of the misfortune, I thought of the loss. I thought of my loved ones—and I thought of myself.

“Home of the brave.” Now more than ever. There were 10,000 people at that very moment who were singularly focused on protecting me and my fellow Bostonians. All I could do was what had been asked of us all: sit tight. But I needed to do something more.

In the safe confines of my home office, overlooking the exact same spot where I had seen a swarm of police cars and bomb-sniffing dogs earlier in the day, I unrolled my yoga mat and found shelter in an entirely different way. I meditated. I acknowledged the panic and the sadness with deep exhales and softened their jagged edges in my chest. I filled my head with thoughts of safety for the men and women whose lives were on the line at that very moment. I inhaled security. I exhaled anxiety. I inhaled trust. I exhaled doubt. I inhaled strength. I exhaled fear. And on and on it went, until all I was left with was confidence that justice would be served and freedom would triumph.

When I settled back in front of the TV—CNN on one tuner, our local FOX station on the other, boston.com’s twitter feed on my iphone—I felt much less helpless than before. Doing all that I could from inside my home, at least energetically, I lent my hand.

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©2013 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because sometimes the best thing you can do is a little mental housekeeping. (Photo by Suzanne Kreiter/Globe Staff.)


On Letter-Writing . . .

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I love getting letters in the mail. Meandering thoughts, one-of-a-kind handwriting, heartfelt sentiments. It all makes me happy.

In the fourth grade, we had a year-long class assignment that centered around studying the United States. We paged through encyclopedias and stared up at wall-mounted maps, handwrote reports, memorized state capitals, tasted regional foods, and corresponded with fourth graders around the country. My pen pal was from Louisiana and she started all of her letters with “Hi, hay, hello.” (Yep, hay.) Our communications fizzled come fifth grade, but my love of sending (and receiving letters) had only just begun.

In high school, I had a slew of international pen pals. I remember spotting an ad in the back of one of those teen magazines. For a few bucks and a SASE, I could get a list of addresses of 12 teenagers living in other countries—all who were just as letter-hungry and world-curious as me. From that moment on, my universe opened wide up.

Fast-forward 20-plus years. I still love sending and receiving handwritten letters, but times have changed. Correspondence is a dying art. E-mail is vying to take its place. Even if the purpose remains the same, the intimate nature is being swept away. Arial 10 pt (or its likeness) has taken the place of penmanship. The suspense (on both ends) is stifled. Bam, it’s sent—and received. Game over. A drop-everything instant response has come to be expected. E-mail is distracting—and unglamorous—tucked in between messages about a Shutterfly sale and LinkedIn updates.

So I was excited when my workplace decided to buddy up with the Timilty Middle School’s Promising Pals program. The idea of corresponding with a 12 year old is sweet and all—but even more importantly, it’s teaching these kids the art of question-asking and fact retention and rapport building and patience. All awesome things—and all awesome reminders for us grown-ups, too.

The child I’ve been paired with seems totally charming. Her favorite colors are red and purple and she loves video games and animals. I look forward to her sweet handwritten letters. As these layers unfold, I am reminded of all those international pen pals that I stayed in touch with through much of high school. Getting to know someone without the face time, without interruption, and with no pretense, is a rare treat.

Note to self—and other letter-lovers out there: Get on board with the More Love Letters movement. Gorgeous idea! Check out Hannah Brencher’s TED talk and get inspired.

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©2013 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because the joy of reciving something handwritten in the mail is undeniable. (Photo by mrchrisadams via Creative Commons.)

 


Wonder Without Googling

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Wonder Without Googling

I got a set of World Book encyclopedias for Christmas in the sixth grade. With all those foil-embossed books just beyond the foot of  my bed, I felt mighty and all-knowing. A little page flipping (and maybe some cross-referencing), and I could find out just enough info to satisfy any and all of my kid intellectual curiosities.

Nowadays, I’ve got this little phone that sits just inches from my pillow–and a larger, glowing box that’s pretty much always at arm’s length. In an instant, I can look up anything I want on these devices–and I do.

Do I ever. Especially when I should be asleep. Sleepy-eyed googling, I have no shame. Plagued by an obscure desire to find out what ever happened to Tato Skins or The Sundays or my kindergarten boyfriend (he climbed Pike’s Peak–or at least somebody with his name did).

So, when I read the 18-point contract that mother gave to her son along with a shiny new iPhone for Christmas, I was struck by the eloquence and the agelessness of her advice. But it was #17 on that contract that stood out to me the most: Wonder without googling.

It’s powerful to have these tools at my fingertips that will give me the answers to pretty much anything I ask of them–in a matter of seconds. No matter where I am, no matter the time of day. And it’s exhausting to have all of that information swirling around in my head. It’s enough to make me miss the days of my leatherette World Books.

I’m cleaning up my online habits in 2013. Less Facebook, more face-to-face time. Less surfing, more diving in. And with that comes wondering without googling.

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©2013 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because some things are best left to imagination. (Photo by ~C4Chaos via Creative Commons.)


Times Gone By

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I catch my reflection, gaze unabashed. Walking toward me as I approach the office door. Keeping my stride as I walk past the windowed shops downtown. And I wonder: how did I get here? Nearly 40, trousers and overcoat, settling in for a day at the office. So serious, so put together, so adult. Not the scrunchi and miniskirt-wearing teenager I expect to see.

The days are long, but the years are short.

Today, a former colleague, whom I haven’t seen in years, stops by my office. A high school friend and I run into each other at the yoga studio. News of another high school classmate is posted on Facebook; a tragic car accident taking his life. Their names and faces, the sound of their voices, all still so familiar.

Indeed, the years are short. And while the days can seem neverending, they’re far from unlimited. I caught a commercial on TV recently–for Michigan tourism of all things–emphasizing that all we get is 25,000 mornings–give or take. 25,000 may sound like a lot, but that only 68 years. So why waste a single one?

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©2012 Good Karma Housekeeping. (Photo by Karl Gunnarsson via Creative Commons.)

 

 

 

 

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